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What conflicts are worth escalating?
« on: July 27, 2016, 01:43:03 AM »
Do you guys think, on a long enough timeline, you could ever forgive me?

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Re: What conflicts are worth escalating?
« Reply #1 on: July 27, 2016, 03:18:08 AM »
Cool question.

Fighting over a belief is rarely worth it.  When you identify too deeply with a belief, you take any criticism of that belief as a personal attack.  That's a recipe for disaster.  It's fine to argue your points, but separate it from yourself and if it's obvious you're not getting anywhere, just drop it.  The goal should be taking in new information, not necessarily "winning".

One of the few conflicts I'll escalate over are personal attacks of character.  If somebody accuses me of being dishonest and I'm not, that's not something I'm dropping.  I'd sooner end that relationship than acquiesce the point.

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Re: What conflicts are worth escalating?
« Reply #2 on: July 27, 2016, 10:57:03 AM »
Is ending the relationship really escalation though?

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Re: What conflicts are worth escalating?
« Reply #3 on: July 27, 2016, 03:48:53 PM »
In a way, it's the ultimate escalation.  In another, it's the ultimate deescalation.  I suppose it depends on how you look at it.

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Re: What conflicts are worth escalating?
« Reply #4 on: July 28, 2016, 12:33:51 AM »
The ultimate escalation is literal murder.

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Re: What conflicts are worth escalating?
« Reply #5 on: July 28, 2016, 04:44:41 AM »
Alternatively, genocide.

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Re: What conflicts are worth escalating?
« Reply #6 on: July 28, 2016, 07:20:50 AM »
So what conflicts are worth performing a genocide?

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Re: What conflicts are worth escalating?
« Reply #7 on: July 28, 2016, 06:23:58 PM »
When a kid leaves their legos out and you step on one.

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Re: What conflicts are worth escalating?
« Reply #8 on: July 28, 2016, 09:07:18 PM »
You have kids?

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Re: What conflicts are worth escalating?
« Reply #9 on: July 28, 2016, 09:28:45 PM »
Don't think so?

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Re: What conflicts are worth escalating?
« Reply #10 on: July 29, 2016, 01:34:09 AM »
Then how would you...

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Re: What conflicts are worth escalating?
« Reply #11 on: July 29, 2016, 01:55:47 AM »
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Re: What conflicts are worth escalating?
« Reply #12 on: August 04, 2016, 01:07:42 AM »
i think the answer to your ethical question is context specific  :banana:

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Re: What conflicts are worth escalating?
« Reply #13 on: August 04, 2016, 08:18:33 AM »
I'll genocide your entire lineage.